Ironically, developing relationships can make tough business decisions less painful through being more personal.
I learned this phrase early on when the business environment led the company to decide to downsize. I was asked to be part of the decision-making process of who would stay and who would go. This would be my first time going through this, and I found it to be a very difficult process. While I was able to look at an individual’s performance to make the correct business decision, I couldn’t help but think of the impact on that person’s life.
I had built relationships with these team members. They supported me, cheered for me, helped me navigate this manufacturing career I was starting. I understood that managers had to make these types of tough decisions, but it still really sucked.
I felt confident in our decisions, but when my boss saw I was upset, he said, “Remember, it’s not personal; it’s business.” I believe I said something along the lines of, “I bet it’s personal to them.”
As I watched those individuals being led out of the building, I snuck into the bathroom and cried. I empathized with the thoughts and fears going through their minds. I knew I couldn’t indulge in these feelings for long, so I quickly went back to work supporting the team members that came to talk with me and helped explain who was going to take on the work of their co-workers. It was personal for them too.
While this “first” would unfortunately not be even close to the last time I would have to go through this; I found myself having the same reactions each time. Some may think that this is why you don’t develop relationships with subordinates, but I couldn’t disagree more. When this type of thing happens, those relationships allow you to be a leader, not just a manager, for your employees to know that you did care about them, that they had meaning, and that, in fact, it was a business decision. I bet there would be more positive workplace cultures if more managers fostered relationships with all team members as much as they focused on metrics.
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